August 25, 2017 by Valerie Ullmer
As an Introvert…Closed Doors. But at home…Open Doors #MFRWAuthors
For the #MFRWAuthor 52-Week Blog hop, this week, week 33, we are talking my preference for open or closed doors!
I am probably contrary to most everyone in every way. When it comes to the outside, I prefer a closed door. Shutting other’s out while being closeted in my own space with my own things, doing what I love to do without the outside world intruding. But when I’m at home, I prefer open doors. Except for the closet doors, the place I live in is wide open and transparent. Again, being in my own world.
The funny thing about me is that while I can be a social person, chatting and getting to know people as much as the next person, I…and I am being completely honest here, I prefer not to. I am what you would consider an introvert, and I don’t really crave the social interaction that most people do. Whenever someone tells me that humans are social animals, I do believe to some extent we are, but I believe that it depends on that interaction. I can talk for hours on the web with other writers, I chat with other readers to get their book recommendations, but I would never join a physical book club or writers group because I am a person that, and it should come as no surprise, prefers to think about what I want to say before I say or write it.
The one person I love talking to is my husband. After almost 21 years together, he makes me laugh like no other person in the world and I’m happy whenever we are together. I felt comfortable with him from the moment we met, and he knows all about my hang-ups when it comes to other people. It’s even so bad that if the phone rings and he’s at home, I won’t even look at it. Even if he’s busy, I won’t pick it up. I figure whoever it is will leave a message because the only person I want to talk to is already home.
I do go out, usually to walk my dog or take my dog swimming, but if it isn’t necessary, I don’t. I don’t even go shopping much anymore. My husband and I discovered a meal kit service, Home Chef, and because of this, we don’t have to go grocery shopping, unless it’s to pick up a few things. But with Amazon Pantry and Sprouts deliveries, I might not ever have to leave the house again. Just kidding. Maybe.
It’s not something that started as I grew older. In high school, I loved free periods where I could go into the back of the library with a book and ignore the world while I got lost in the words I read. You would have to drag me or bribe me to do anything that would be considered social. And the older I get the more I appreciate being able to close myself off from the world and create the stories that might have someone else lose themselves in my fictional worlds, somewhere they are comfortable and protected.
In other words, I love open doors when I’m at home and with my husband and our dog, Maddie. Nothing is between us and we share everything together. But with the world outside, I prefer to live my own life and like to keep the world out of my small sanctuary.
Thank you for stopping by and I hope you have a great weekend!!